I met with my spiritual director on a regular basis, about once a month, and came to the conclusion that I might be, at times, a little too picky.I needed to give guys, of strong faith especially, a second or third date if there was any potential - I wasn't always good at doing this.Because if it did I would have still got attention when I was overweight wouldn’t I?Because I was still a nice guy when I was overweight. Well done on your weight loss :) Don't gain weight for any reason other than because you want to. You will find someone who will love you for you, and not just because of your body.I could be picky about appearances and common interests or personalities.However, I honestly think it's good to be picky on moral and spiritual matters.“James” tells me that he’s 30 years old, living in Seattle, working in IT. A little angry, perhaps, but I’m used to getting clients who aren’t too happy with the fact that they’re reaching out to a dating coach.James tells me that after focusing on his career for most of his 20’s, he’s been dating intently for the past year. It seems that whenever he goes out with women, they’re all so SHALLOW.
In fact, there was a certain month in my mid-twenties when there were three guys interested in me, and they were all great guys, but something deep down told me none of them were right for me.
After that month (most of my months were much slower in terms of dating), I started to wonder whether or not there was a problem with me.
Most helpful for me in coming to a place of peace in my dating choices was meeting with a spiritual director (a priest, elder or mentor in your faith community would be great for this).
Girls these days are 5 times more shallow and picky than guys are. I truly believe that women are more picky than men b men are the ones who get a bad rep. As they get older, they try to land the "rich AND hot guy". This is why you see almost every girl, including really fat and out of shape ones getting attention from a guy here and there but for guy even if he is not bad and decent looking barely gets any attention from girls.
True they are visual but women are even more superficial when it comes to looks. There are fat and completely unattractive women who completely ignore guys of their level (fat and completely attractive men) for better.