I didn’t feel there was a spark, but Ray is easy to talk to, and I had a lovely evening.Maybe I’m a bit fussy, but having been single for four years now and divorced since I was 31, I know what I want.Ray is a lovely man, and would make someone a wonderful partner, but I know he’s not for me. I’m very independent and don’t think I’m looking for someone to live with again, but I would love a bit of romance.The evening reinforced my belief that rather than go searching, I will wait for someone to come along, and get on with my life in the meantime.Dating portals put the responsibility on the individual to do the searching and selecting.This format is challenging because we’re on our own—outside the social context of meeting through friends and far from the conventions of community matchmaking or arranged marriages. This column is for those who are venturing back to dating in midlife, and need advice and the reassurance they are not alone.Every week we send a couple out on a blind date and ask them to report back.
In an effort to not be one of those people who's like, "Omg, you're single?We were moving from gin and tonics to beer when he suddenly showed up with shots. ' After the concert, we went to his place, did the deed, and passed out. M., I woke up with throbbing pain in my ankle and couldn't put any weight on it.I thought it was broken, maybe because someone jumped on it when we were dancing.The three-times divorced 59-year-old has been single for a year.After so many years on my own, the idea of dating again was scary.